A lot of self care suggestions like to focus on the fun stuff: the salt baths, getting your hair or nails done, getting that fancy cup of coffee. But not a lot is said about the not-so-fun aspects of self care, which are ultimately the self care that matters in the long-term.

Healing your childhood wounds, setting appropriate boundaries in relationships, and letting go of toxic patterns isn’t fun. It can be really painful to confront the shadow aspects of yourself and make new, healthy choices. And yet this is the self care that will actually produce lasting positive results in your life.

Doing something to just forget about the bad feeling or your problems is how the world currently operates, because to actually start healing and making new choices is uncomfortable. However, the Twin Flame journey is a journey of profound transformation, and with that comes some degree of being uncomfortable. It’s a natural part of the process.

So if you’re reading this post, I’d like to invite you to ask yourself: how is my current self care routine serving me on my Twin Flame journey? Is there anything I could change about it that will be a more fruitful investment in the long-term? Am I really practising self care, or am I simply trying to escape from feeling awful?